The Ability of Love...

Love is not a feeling, its an ability, watching this movie "Dan In Real Life", i stumbled on this quote an it got me to thinking. All my life I've heard ppl use Love as an emotion ( a: the affective aspect of consciousness : feeling b: a state of feeling c: a conscious mental reaction (as anger or fear) subjectively experienced as strong feeling usually directed toward a specific object and typically accompanied by physiological and behavioral changes in the body...does this even sound like real love, not that I am an exert in this area, but for a long time I've said and other ppl who know me have said I've been running from it for some time now, afraid of commitment, afraid of this connection that what other ppl are suppose to have when they "just know" c'mon ppl this doesn't make sense...a strong sense dedicated to an object since when does objectification sound like love, Lemme throw my own definition out there...yea its an ability, the ability to withstand and overcome obstacles that come in the way of a comittment to someone but its coupled with agility is the ability to change the body's position, and requires a combination of balance, coordination, speed, strength, endurance,and stamina. why agility? bcuz in my opinion it encompasses all necessary aspects of a strong relationship, balance, the foundation of the relationship enables both sides to show compassion and understanding during conflict, Coordination...making different people or things work together for a goal or effect. hence the compromise for the goal, speed is fueled by the desire to resolve conflict bcuz it does not help the end goal. it requires the strength to carry the load sometimes when the other is down and out in need of support, and an endurance that is showcased everyday when surrounded by a world that doesn't get or want love and will do anything to tear it down....I said all this to say that love cant be an emotion because those change, it is in my opinion a habit of practice, showing itself not just to a significant other but also to man kind, by showing love toward mankind you exercise this ability, you work it out, you see how far you really are, how selfish you really are and far you have to go or even want to go...We have to stop looking at it like a feeling and more like a journey with no destination, how different would we act if we couldn't tell if somebody loved us back but rather loved because it was right to do...treating love like law and hate like the infraction of moral/ civil law that it is...we cant keep preying on others emotions to try and evoke love, i think we just have to practice it, knowing that it strengthens our one God given ability that He has commanded of us...